We all have seen them.That friend on facebook who will write the cryptic post or meme photo insinuating some profound knowledge of other peoples lives. Negative messages meant to hurt people without naming names. Are you guilty? Who is it really hurting?
Your upset and post snide comments, never naming who you are talking about. You got peoples attention and your friends say they agree or your right. They are agreeing to the post not what it is about. Then there is that one person who knows it’s about them that you are hurting. Wait! There are those 5 other people who think it is about them. You hurt them too. Then there are the ones who think you are a mean person, a negative person.
Is that the type of person you are? Is that what God wants you to be?
Go back to your last few days of social media. What type of things are you posting? Is it positive or negative? Does it reflect the person you want people to see you as? Are you being a good friend?
Trash talking online seems to become the norm. People hide behind a computer and think it is clever. Cryptic messages are the worst. People feel betrayed and hurt and, it is hard to not feel that way. The person may be going through something that reflects your comments and the only thing you accomplish is hurting people. Wouldn’t it be much easier to talk it out?
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Not physically, no. Emotionally the damage your words does on people can last a lifetime. Either you will chose to have a legacy of positivity or the legacy or hate. That choice is something much more than a second of anger you posted when you were upset. Truth is most the time when we get mad about something it is easy to lash out. But, sometimes just talking to the person rationally can solve most of it.
Not only is it negative, It’s a cowardly act. How can that person defend themselves? You have already rallied your friends to support you and no one dare comment in fear they will be targeted. Now you have hurt someone and have troops to fight your battle that don’t know the situation. IT may make you feel like you accomplished something. But, when God ask you why, what will you say?
Is that who you want to be? When faced with who you are, is that the type of person you wish for people to think of you as? Is that who you see in the mirror? The one who is a bully online, one who’s opinionated comments are hateful and mean? I for one don’t want people to see me in that sort of light. I would like to have people see me as the person I am, or try to be, a good hearted person.
Everyone has gossiped in their lives. It is wrong and often we feel bad after. The difference is when we speak we have less time to think about our words. Online we have time to contemplate it, type it, search for that perfect meme to get our point across. In that time we had the chance to realize what we are doing and cancel it. Now it is out for the world to see.
What would God say if he were to talk to us about those actions? I think he would want us to know this, He doesn’t want us to speak ill of each other online or in person. Even if the post doesn’t say who we are talking about. We are still spreading hate. Everyone gossips or says hurtful things our of frustration. Does it make it right? No.
In James 4:11 – Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of [his] brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
After all gossiping and spreading hateful images to people is not who we should want to be. I personally get frustrated and speak out negative things. I feel bad of myself as soon as it leaves my lips. Everyone wants to be thought of as good person, an honest person, and trustworthy person. But, your words reflects your heart. Either you are remorseful of it or you are one whose heart is hardened. The only person it hurts on those post is ourselves. How? People see the negative in you. Sometimes peoples only real interaction with you may be online. The impression you have given is one that you are are bully. Take a little time to reflect on what type of person you are portraying yourself to be.
Maybe you are mad, having a bad day, or just think you are being clever. Sometimes I have noticed people will not really know the person they are talking about but, everyone know who they are referring to.
I try not to post negative imagery on my social pages. In a way it is a reflection of us. I have started to post these things out of frustration. I quickly realized that I was not hurting the person, I was hurting myself. Holding on to hate that God tells us to let him take care of. I quickly delete those post before I post them. It only takes a second for people to see you as a mean person. Years to prove you are good.
Philippians 4:8 – Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.